Are You a Master at Creating What You Don’t Want?

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“What exactly does a life coach do anyway?” I asked a well known coach at a party. Her answer was simple. “Most people are running from something. You have to be running towards something. You have to have a vision.”

While it may be obvious now, it was a profound statement about how I was choosing to live, or rather not live at the time. I was focusing my mind on what I didn’t want; the challenging parts of my job, the relationships that weren’t working and being out of shape. This kept me stuck. As Tony Robbins discusses in his book, The Giant Within, I was focusing on not hitting the wall instead of getting across the finish line.

I felt like a ship alone at sea with no compass and no rudder. I was not sure where I was going. I was sure I wasn’t staying in that space. Her answer started a chain of events, which led to me to become a better person, live a better life and enter the world of professional coaching. To do this, I had to become a master at creating what I wanted instead of staying a master at creating my fears.

Many times we focus on what we don’t want. In the leadership realm, we focus on disengaged employees, low productivity and low profit margins. Guess what we get? We struggle to focus on actions that engage employees, dramatically improve productivity and drive value and profit. To achieve visionary results, we have to become a master at creating what we want. We enter a transformation process to achieve this. It is not easy. It is worthwhile.

 Masters at Creating What They Don’t Want

Masters At Creating What They Want

 – WEAR A MASK 

 – KNOW WHO THEY ARE

 – STRUGGLE TO IDENTIFY STRENGTHS

 – UNDERSTAND THEIR STRENGTHS

 – FOCUS ON WHAT THEY DO NOT WANT

 – DEFINE THEIR VISION

 – REACT TO LIFE

 – HAVE A PLAN

 – ARE AFRAID TO TAKE ACTION

 – TAKE ACTION

 – ARE MANAGED BY THEIR INNER CRITIC  

 – MANAGE THEIR INNER CRITIC

Know who you are

What are your values? What makes you unique? What are you passionate about? Knowing who we are grounds us and allows us to begin the creative process.

Understand your strengths

What skills best capture you? What gives you the greatest satisfaction? How does this combination of strengths work together to let you be you? Understanding our strengths gives us energy to formulate vision.

Define your vision

What do you want more of? What are your dreams? What miracles do you want in your life? People will immediately assist you once they understand your vision.

Develop a plan

What goals will get you to your vision? What things need to happen to achieve your goals? Breaking your goals down into small, actionable steps makes it easier to take action.

Take action

Action builds energy and momentum. It generates more opportunities and success. It can also be uncomfortable because you feel like you are taking risks. In reality, staying stuck in inaction is much riskier. This is also when perceived barriers begin to surface. We may sabotage our self to stay “safe”.

Manage your inner critic

Your inner critic is the voice that tells you not to take risks. It may reinforce a limiting belief that you are not good enough to have success. It thrives on fear. Many people fear failure. They avoid successful action, which in turn keeps them stuck. Instead of allowing the inner critic to convince you that you will fail, how can you understand its function and give it a new job – to help you succeed?

Now is the time to have the life you want and deserve. How can you accomplish this? Follow the steps above to become a master at creating what you want.

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